Posted by Anonymous on 2015/01/29 under Uncategorized I miss Sander so much and I just want to scream and cry because everyone made me feel so stupid rushing into a relationship. I’m an idiot for believing someone could ever like me or want to be with me.
No you’re not. You feel frustrated because you rushed into a relationship, and I assume, expected it to go well. Relationships end, good and bad, short term and long term, and very few that actually DO stay intact, are actually intact and happy (i.e. one or the other cheat or argue or abuse the other). For believing SOMEONE could ever like you or want to be with you, that’s reasonable because there will be someone who will love you and want to spend every day with you, that won’t be able to live without you, you just haven’t found them yet. To believe that someone you rushed into a relationship with stay with you for a while, especially if you don’t know eachother too well, or he has a history of leaving girls, then maybe a slight bit gullible, but let this be a learning experience for you. Don’t rush into a relationship, get to know the person really well, and let them get to know you really well, take things slowly, make sure this person really likes you and really desires to be with you. You’ll probably still hurt about this for a while, but it’s okay to cry, and scream into a pillow if you need to, any way to ease your pain that will not hurt you or anyone else. Don’t worry too much about love or relationships and protect yourself: don’t let a guy use you.
I agree with Amber, As a guy I see it happen so many times. Rushing in head first into the unknown. It is human nature. That’s how we move forward and learn from our previous mistakes. I’m sorry that your heart was broken.
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Thank you both. It really means so much to have you both reply. I hopefully won’t do something as stupid as this again. It’s just upsetting to have so much excitement for something but then it fails.
Ciara. Your Most Welcome. I’m not the only one able to give advice if you need any or want to let more off your chest.
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Well, I don’t know if theres as much I have the usual “problems” of many female teens such as insecurities and a major lack of self confidence. I cry everynight before I go to bed because I think about how better I could’ve been if I did certain things and I trap myself in my thoughts and just tear myself down slowly and painfully. I’ve tried to kill myself before but being the pussy O am I told my mom before the pills could fully do their magic. Honestly I feel as if this is a phase but who knows it most likely is and I need to wake up and get a clue. I’ve recently talked to my mom about it all and stuff how I hate myself so much and how I feel like a mistake and it kills her which kills me so I try to be happy for her because as a single mother to know that your child hates herself more than anything in the world must hurt. But honestly I have a lot of people who like to tell me my flaws repeatedly which is annoying and frustrating. I know I don’t have it bad at all compared to so many others. I have a roof over my head and clothing and food so I’m complaining for really nothing but I can’t get over my self hatred. This was stupid and im sorry.
If you did different things how do you thing that your life could be any better? Do you think that it would change who you were supposed to be? If you were to do that would you have met me or anyone here on STW? I ask that you don’t try to kill yourself again. If you ever feel yourself getting down in the dumps talk to me. ( or anyone here. I promise you that someone will hear you. Main reason I started the facebook page so people could have an Immediate source to let out what is on their mind and have someone talk to them)
Some people (who are pointing out flaws) may not realize that it is bothering you and trying to be constructively help. (I don’t know because I don’t know the full story of your life to make an accurate statement) Yes a roof over your head and all is a blessing that most (who am I kidding) all of us take for granted. Don’t put yourself down for complaining. It’s a good thing that you choose to do so here so someone (Like me or Amber) can give you some feedback and possibly encouragement. Don’t put yourself down.
I’m here if you need me..
Do you have any kind of social media where I may contact you?
http://www.somewheretowrite.com/life/23459
Here is the post that I made awhile back for people to talk. Though it’s just getting started.
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